Accept them as they are or leave

Accept people for who they are and if you can't accept them let them go.

In many relationships people don't think for themselves,but instead they want to do what everyone else said they should be doing instead of figuring out what they really want.

Listening to somebody else's script will always leave you confused and trying to control others.

For instance, how many women have been told they need to find a "good Christian man" to have a good relationship?

What happens is these women will find a man they really like and realize he isn't that "good Christian man". He's just a decent man so somewhere down the road they try to change this man and try to get him to read the Bible,go to church, etc

What does the man do?

Push back.

He feels like "damn why you trying to change me? I treat you good why isn't that enough"

When you try to change people you weaken the connection and push them away.

If you want a "good Christian man" then stand firm on your standards and find a man already where you want him to be instead of trying to mold him.

And really think about if you're trying to change this man because you need to be in control or if you wanna change him to please others.

Man or woman, people are not your projects to work on and mold! Stop trying to change people! People change when they are good and got damn ready. I promise you that if they change for you it won't be long before they revert back to their old ways. They'll even grow resentment for feeling like they have to sacrifice who they are for you.

Do you like when people tell you that they must do XYZ for you before they can fully love you and accept you? NOOOO because you have every right to be who you want to be or be who you really are.

If they are an asshole and you hate it then why are you with them? Are you with them because you are in love with their body parts and the thought of them?

It is COMPLETELY possible to find someone who is good in bed and good to you at the same time so why are you settling? You DON'T have to settle!

If someone just isn't your cup of tea then accept it. Sure you're not gonna find someone that does 100% of things the way you want them to, but thinking you can turn a Tyrone into a Denzel is not being realistic.

It isn't your JOB to mold and create people. You can not "build a boo"!

I personally don't want anyone that will do everything I say do and change everything for me because that makes them MY BITCH. Maybe you are into that kind of thing, but I like having a PARTNER to LOVE not a robot or do-boy.

I am willing to bet that outside of things like finances and cheating, a good bit of relationship problems stem from people trying to change each other and fighting about it.

Simple solution to loads of arguments about petty shit and big issues like cheating, verbal abuse, neglect, etc:

Accept them as they are or leave.

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